Valeri Lake has written a book called the deny 100. It's about denying what you're who knows even what part of you it is that's saying, do that? When i got pregnant, i was like, we need to remember that that did not bring us happiness. There's a specific kind of depression that comes from just giving yourself whatever you want whenever you want it. Valeri would love to be able to have my free days every day,. Or lake, when i sat on the couch after lee was in bed last night, an watched, we were watching something and it was like, this is what i want to do all the time.