I think that I have a relatively good relationship with it in that I don't really watch it you know anymore but I'm a child of the internet so like I grew up with it. So when you masturbate you just sort of use your imagination. It's not something to be shameful about. The more sex we have even with it ourselves we're circulating our sexual energy and we might find that we are more in the mood more we do it. Giving each other massages could also be a great way to like maybe to lead to sex but it's also just intimacy and touch which I think a lot of us crave. We go in phases where we masturbate we don't masturbate