How to Call Someone in When You Live on Different Planets and Don't Use the Same Vocabulary

Admiral: How do you begin to call someone in when it feels like you live on different planets and don't even use the same vocabulary? Well, I find that it's very useful in those kinds of situations to go underneath their words and ask about their values. So let's do a demonstration. In my TED talk, I talk about my uncle Frank. He ain't really my uncle, but you know, he's still living so I can't call him out. This person in my life seeks attention by saying the most outrageous things about somebody who's not present. And with this approach, he's less likely to become defensive because you haven't actually attacked him.