Is It My Responsibility to Make the Other Person Happy?

We can only be responsible for that over which we have some control. When i trick myself into thinking i'm responsible for my partner's happiness, i'm taking on a job that i can't do. I cannot make the other person happy. So keeping this concept of responsibility clear is very important in intimate relationships. We are responsible for our own intentions and actions. Whenever they are in distress, we feel pressure to do something about it. It's our job to make the person feel better. This will take all joy out of anything we do to contribute to the other persons well being.