What Would You Do if You Had Tough Kids?

What would you guys do if you have terrible kids? Cry Give up as a mother. I think one thing that I need to work on personally is like not letting other people's actions slash development Reflect on what I've done personally so like when I heard About our little brother doing some questionable things. I was like I have failed as an older sister like I I have like This is terrible. I am a failure Like this was the one thing thatI didn't want to happen and it happened and therefore it's a reflection on me as a person. But your kids are definitely a reflection of who you are I know but you can't control their environment like you can't control the friends