I thought we were I got him a lot of work. He's still my kids still see him and stuff like that which is tough, you know, that's right But you just kind of that's just what it is,. You know I once came home in this house and Val was just cooking dinner with a guy friend of ours And I talked about it in therapy I didn't realize and you know what dr. Gray Penn said he goes it's not like it was wrong or bad. It just was the wrong optics Yeah, he's the term optics. She's called so like sometimes we all have different Strength levels. yeah different vulnerability levels and I was vulnerable and I saw it.