How to Deal With an Emotional Manipulator

Emotional manipulation is when someone says, "I can see that you're upset. I'm feeling upset as well" and then they don't want to accept responsibility for their own emotional crap. So instead of saying what do you think we can do from here? You dump it in the other person's lap. They'll come back with all kinds of emotionally damaging crap because they haven't learned shared decision making or shared problem solving.