Curtisye: It is a painful topic, but it's just not going away. Should i stay or should i go? Question am and, you know, i wonder if this is something that a even in churches need to surface more explicitly. He says the church needs to do a better job at helping those who disagree think through their options. Curtisye: If you feel like we lack decency, ind forgiveness and civility, Im trying to do your best as an imperfect person to model decency, civility and in forgiveness.