"I don't want to just believe that I'm secure and then not do any work on myself," she says. "You can be a person that has a secure attachment style, but there's still like an underlying secondary attachment style" If you're around somebody who is very rejecting of you or blows hot and cold, that will activate the attachment style that you have healed from. And if you're dating someone without having seen this kind of love before, it may take some getting used to.
This week I am joined by Chidera Eggerue, otherwise known as the Slumflower, host of the Slumflower Hour and author of the Number 1 Sunday Times Bestsellers What a Time to be Alone (2018) and How to Get Over a Boy (2020) to discuss attachment styles, how to set boundaries and non-negotiables when dating men. We discuss the own hard lessons we’ve learnt through our intimate relationships, how to reclaim your power, the psychology behind why we accept the bare minimum and so much more. Listen now!
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