Thanksgiving is about showing your gratitude and love by laboring away in the kitchen. We've been society conditioned to think that women will be failures if they don't cook for thanksgiving. So you can do things that lets mam sort of be a good woman in her mind, because that's the way at she's been conditioned. Or even it's not conditioning, that's sort of like actually kind of condescending. She may actually value that, right? Maybe it is like, what she views as her thoghtma, this is something that i want to do for my family. And so maybe then you have a second conversation with your husband or your dad and say like,