There’s only so much logic you can apply to your problems, at some point you need to work with your biology.

The nervous system it an incredible organ built to help you survive and it can over-ride your conscious processing at will. To stop tripping over our barriers and build true resilience, reduce stress & feel more alive we need there is a way.

Working with your nervous system instead of against it.

On the show we invite Esin Pinarli a licensed therapist and expert in working with our nervous system to give us a masterclass on turning discomfort into growth.

Three Takeaways:

Your nervous system doesn’t want you to succeed—it wants you to survive.
Discomfort is a signal, not a stop sign.
You grow by expanding your window of tolerance, not by breaking through it.

Real personal growth doesn’t come from reading another book or “thinking positive.” It comes from your body. From doing the hard thing, just a little bit at a time. We talk about titration (small steps), edge surfing (riding discomfort), and how your brain actually rewires itself when you face fear—gracefully.

Turns out, the part of your brain responsible for willpower literally grows when you push yourself. This is about learning to stretch without snapping. To build a stronger relationship with yourself—one uncomfortable moment at a time.

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Episode: Nervous System Mastery: Build resilience, reduce stress and feel more yourself - w/ Esin Pinarli

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to nervous system mastery

03:09 Defining Growth Mindset

04:16 The Science Behind Willpower

06:53 Skill Breaks and Titration

08:54 Metaphors for Growth

09:56 Understanding the Nervous System

11:47 Fear of Intimacy and Abandonment

13:49 The Duality of Human Nature

18:39 Hysterical = historical -> energy stored in body

19:36 How to discharge energy

21:16 Exercise as an antidepressant

23:30 Edge surfing and accepting growth

28:40 Magic Mind

30:14 Accepting this moment

31:46 Navigating co-dependant relationships and personal growth that affects relationships

37:17 What is Shame

38:52 The Role of Gratitude and Glimmers

44:28 The Journey of Self-Improvement

50:57 Extra content from Esin

52:22 Take homes

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