Is It a Request or an Order?

"I pon pleaseet parents. If it between parents and kids, of course it's going to be, most of the time, denied," she says. "If in your mind it is a request, it should be clearly communicated as a request", he adds. 'You say something, and you don't want to order him, but you're kind of ordering him,' Anles writes. "'It should be recs, or it should be ordered or both' -- that's what i'm saying."