Once we remove loser from the equation then something really magical starts to happen. You begin to realize okay it's not my fault that I'm here but it's absolutely my responsibility to do something about it. Once you don't blame yourself next thing that you've got to figure out is what are you truly responsible for so step one is get rid of all of the blameStep two is okay what am I responsible for nowHere's where the mind is going to do a really important trick when you start to think about what you're responsible for if you're not careful you're thought thinking about shoulds and shooting yourself in the foot.