282: The Honor Roll Hangover with Melody Wilding
Pivot with Jenny Blake
The Importance of Permission
"I have permission to push when my energy is high. And I have permission to rest when my body tells me to slow down," she says. "Believing in myself is important right now because the people in my life deserve the best of me, and know that no matter what happens, I've got this."
Believe it or not, your emotions are a competitive advantage: 90 percent of top performers are also high in emotional intelligence, and 92 percent of executives rate soft skills like the ability to manage emotions as a critical priority in today’s business environment.
That said, if you relate to the idea of being a Sensitive Striver, you may still be suffering from what Melody Wilding calls The Honor Roll Hangover—a tricky trifecta of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overfunctioning. Listen in to this conversation for the antidote.
More About Melody: Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. She is a human behavior expert and executive coach and teaches graduate-level human behavior and psychology at the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in New York.
🌟 3 Key Takeaways:
- Leave margin in your life for serendipity and fluctuations. Don’t be afraid to book yourself to only 80% capacity.
- Protect your time and energy by protecting your calendar. Sensitive strivers need the time to switch gears between activities.
- Trusting yourself is the antidote to perfectionism, overfunctioning, and people-pleasing. Depend on your intuition more.
📝 Melody’s Permission List:
- I hereby grant myself complete and unlimited permission to:
- In order to:
- Specifically, I have permission to feel:
- I have permission to be:
- Specifically I have permission to push when:
- I have permission to rest when:
- I have permission to start:
- I have permission to try:
- I have permission to stop:
- I have permission to let go:
- Giving myself full permission and wholeheartedly believing in myself is important right now because:
- I trust myself to:
📘 Books Mentioned:
- Free Time: Lose The Busywork, Love Your Business
- Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One
- Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work
- Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free
- The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You
🔗 Resources Mentioned:
- Melody on the web | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
- Video: Celebrating one year of Trust Yourself
- Articles: Medium Article on Trust Yourself, Forbes on Being an Overfunctioner at Work
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