The recipe for happiness is actually to not look at yourself, but to look at other people. We do attend to pay a lot of attention for ourselves and it becomes a vicious cycle. If you think about this other person, invariably you end up feeling better. I will say this, angela one more thing that lily wrote in this second email where she was asking for advice in the twenties, i will get all my friends and family to listen. Don't know if that's a promise or a threat. That's all it took, i'll take it.