Speaker 1
What do we really mean? I really need you to check in with me 24 hours after I just sucked your dick, let you live my pee, you know, because that's really intimate. It's super intimate and the funny thing is people are willing to do the most intimate things with each other, but they're not willing to actually verbalize these things or what they need. So it's not allowed. I know it could feel awkward or scary at first, but once you get in the practice of it, you feel a lot safer and you're going to be able to let your freak flag fly in bedroom because the more sort of boundaries and needs that you name within reason, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect to ask for someone to just check in with you 24 hours later if that's what you need. I think that that's totally fair and makes so much sense to me and especially if you are sleeping with a number of people, I think having that baseline understanding of what's going to feel comfortable and that you're not necessarily trying to find out if the relationships going to the next level, you're just literally trying to say these are the things that are going to make me feel safe, I think is just a really powerful practice. And even when you're in a committed relationship too, I think I love talking about sex after it happens and talking about what felt good, what didn't feel good and leaning into it that way. And I think for a lot of partners when I haven't had that many partners, but when I'm in a long-term relationship, at least starting to get into it, people are always kind of taken aback by my interest in talking about sex after it happens. And a couple days later, I'm like, so did you like it when I went down on you? Did you like it when I did this? You and I are so cut from the same cloth. I am just insatiable curious about how my partner feels. You
