Have you ever wondered, "How do I actually love myself?" or "Why don’t I love myself?"

We get this question ALL the time, and we knew it deserved its own episode because hidden within this seemingly innocent inquiry is one of the biggest blocks to true self-love. The very way we ask the question can make self-love feel like a destination—or something we either have or don’t—when in reality, self-love is not a static state of being but a lifelong practice.

Self-love isn’t about reaching a permanent state of happiness, confidence, or unshakable worthiness. It is not about feeling good all the time or never struggling with doubt again. Instead, it’s about cultivating an ongoing, compassionate relationship with yourself—one where you meet yourself with kindness even when you feel unworthy, show up for yourself even when you’re struggling, and commit to loving yourself not just on your best days, but especially on the hardest ones too.

So in this episode, we break down the illusory myths about self-love to explore what it ACTUALLY looks like in everyday life, and share the mindset shifts that make love for yourself feel not just possible, but natural and maybe even already present within you.