Is There a Connection?

So we don't have to ever be afraid of how the other person might respond. We only have to be concerned with how we will deal with their response. But that puts our security in our hands. So one of the two main responses is tell me what you heard me say so I can see if I made myself clear. And the other, sometimes I might just want the other person to tell me how they feel about what I said. These two tell me whether the connection is there to go here.