Introduction

We're wired to value what we work for more highly than what comes easily. This especially applies to relationships. 

But a lot of men accidentally plant the seeds of resentment in their relationships because they have a desire to prove their worth to their girlfriend or wife. But when you do everything for her, you’re actually robbing her of her ability to connect with you on the deepest level. 

A better solution is doing the opposite: The more your partner invests in you and your relationship, the more she will value it.

Now, this isn’t a free pass to wield manipulation, which only works in the short-term at the expense of the long-term. Instead, it’s about knowing the rules of engagement and using them to your benefit when they’re aligned with your morals. 

In today’s show, you’ll discover the “Cost Worth Connection” that can instantly raise your value on the spot, why people pleasers and nice guys struggle in long-term relationships, and how to avoid common pitfalls that come attached to the “Cost Worth Connection.” 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The “Cost Worth Connection” formula for growing stronger in your relationship as years pass instead of withering away (1:17)  
• How helping your girlfriend or wife with everything actually plants seeds of resentment instead of connection (1:55) 
• How to increase attraction, appreciation and enjoyment in a relationship (even after you’ve passed the honeymoon phase) (6:13) 
• Why people pleasers struggle in long-term relationships and cause their attractiveness to diminish (6:37)
• The weird way this popular habit-building method can improve every aspect of your relationship (10:22) 
• How bragging in front of beautiful women makes them recoil and run away from you (17:40) 
• The psychological reason why nice guys always get mistreated, dumped, and cheated on—with real life examples (18:15) 

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