"It's the desire that moves first. We want before we ever understand why we're wanting, usually," he says. "When i look back on some of the things that i wanted, an is the case for all of us, right? And learning some basic skills, like how to question my desires ando not sort of live with the illusion that i always know what's best for me."
#335: Have you ever spent years studying the wrong major, climbing the ladder at the wrong company, chasing the wrong career?
Have you spent years living in the wrong city? Wrong relationship? Wrong lifestyle?
It’s hard to discern what *we think we want* from what we really want.
Society teaches us what we’re “supposed” to want. And we follow along.
The result is keeping up with the Joneses. It’s the hedonic treadmill. It’s lifestyle inflation. And it causes conflict, both within ourselves and with others.
Today’s guest, Luke Burgis, discusses mimetic desire — how our “wants” are imitative — and how we can find our deeper truths.
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