Ep 1272 | Your Self-Care Is Making You Weak: Therapist Drops Hard Truths | RaQuel Hopkins
Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey
Optimization Over Protection
RaQuel explains 'optimization' as nurturing growth rather than protecting from discomfort.
Allie and licensed therapist RaQuel Hopkins dismantle today’s feel-good therapy culture. “Protect your peace” has produced fragile adults. RaQuel calls for optimization, not coddling. Tough love builds capacity; toxic empathy breeds victims. Reject self-obsession; embrace personal responsibility. Tune in for biblical clarity on emotions, resilience, and why your pain isn’t special — but God’s grace is.
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Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(03:30) Optimization
(11:50) Defining "Self-Care"
(14:05) Toxic Empathy
(17:25) Emotionally Rescuing Someone
(28:00) Defining "Capacity"
(34:50) Mental Illnesses
(39:30) Defining "Burn Out"
(42:00) Finding Fulfillment
(50:50) God Increases Your Capacity
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