Marriage and Partnership - Is Your Natural Instinct to Protect Yourself?

If you undermine your marriage out of self-protection, not only does your spouse pay, but you pay a big price for that. You have interfered with creating partnership, which is really fundamental to adult happiness. So how do I think about what I'm angry about and come in in a more productive way to solve something here? Not just what my partner is doing, but also what I'm doing. That's the way that marriage and partnership can push our development forward if we let it.