Almost everyone has sexual fantasies—and has them often. But most of us have questions about our fantasies, including what they really mean, how to share them with a partner, and how to go about turning them into reality. In this episode, we’re going to do a deep dive into the world of fantasies. Among other things, we’ll discuss what to do when you have shame or trauma connected to your fantasies, how you can use technology to facilitate open communication about fantasies, as well as what you need to know if you’re thinking about acting on your fantasies.

I am joined once again by Rena Martine, a women’s intimacy coach, former Sex Crimes Deputy District Attorney for the Los Angeles County D.A.’s Office, and author of The Sex You Want: A Shameless Journey to Deep Intimacy, Honest Pleasure, and a Life You Love.

Some of the questions we explore in this episode include:

What is the difference between a sexual fantasy and a sexual desire?
Do fantasies need to be elaborate or “fantastical” in order to count as fantasies?
How can we get rid of the shame we may have surrounding our fantasies?
What are some ways we can make sure our sexual needs and desires are prioritized?
How can a newbie who is interested in threesomes or kink start exploring these fantasies?

Make sure to check out Rena’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology

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