You Cannot Control if You're Being Canceled

When you're being cancelled, one of the things that is completely fucking overwhelming about it is how little control you have. All you want to do is mitigate it, control it, change something about what's happening to you - and you don't. So there's this desperate desire to change these external factors that we actually have very little control over. And so i went out and found people who did a way of me reclaiming my power. It was obviously scarier and more vulnerable for me to try to date with people who did not understand this experience. But instead i said, ok, it is true, but what can i do? And that is an internal locus of control.