Is There a Trigger, a Behavior, or Reward?

i learned a long time ago that by not having that conversation, i kept getting myself into these scenarios with annie. And all i had to do is just step back and say, ok, we're about to go even to the mall, and what's our outcome? Am? This is what mam needs. This is what you need, ok, grade, how do we compromise it? How do we move forward? It was done by the thinking. Whether they're aware of it or not. I think eventually, mike, bet our kids, and other kids too, will start just naturally doing this,. without necessarily know that this is g t d or or knowing the thinking