It is not a betrayal to use your imagination to bring you more pleasure. Fantasy is a safe space, and it's time we bust the myth that what you fantasize about and what you want to happen in reality are always the same thing. For them, sex is an avenue to accessing feelings of aliveness, empowerment, joy and confidence innate to all of us. None of us can afford not to prioritize sex. It isn't a nice to have,. or if i get to it, dead last in our lists, right after picking up the dry cleaning.