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5 Steps To Boost Your Mental Health | Lori Gottlieb

The Art of Charm

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Do You Want a Vent or Do You Need Feedback?

We don't know how to listen to people. We give them what we would want in that situation, but we don't actually know what they want. When i think about the patterns in my life of showing up for others and not feeling comfortable asking when I need some one else to show up back - it's this unwritten contract that ends up happening where we're creating these expectations on our friends' behalf. It's a common problem among people who are people pleasers. People have been taught early on that somebody else's comfort was more important than yours. That's exactly what people pleasing is.

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