When you don't have good emotional boundaries and you're very reactive, everything can feel that way. The slightest bit of criticism can feel like a straight up attack. And so what do we do when we're in fightor flight mode? What are the ways that we behave? We can be attacking, blaming, name calling, analyzing, yelling,. pursuing right the persons, trying to be like a may wish to take a break - but it's all so exhausting for your relationships.