Couple Therapy - The Difference Between Problem Solving and Discussion

There is two fundamental conversation types that I explained in couple therapy so one is problem solving problem solving the goal is to solve a problem it's pretty obvious. The second type of communication is what I call a discussion and the goal of a discussion is to understand more deeply what your partner thinks and feels especially if they feel and think differently than you do. If we default into problem solving too quickly we often don't have a deep enough understanding of what the problem is, she says. It can be really helpful to clarify hey you know I really just want to have a hold off on problem solving or I really need your help  and those really basic airtime requests can be very helpful for couples