Social psychologist says he does not believe in soul mates. He believes relationships are processes that people work at. The good relationsip you have with some person is different than the good relationip you might have with another person. It really matters who you choose, because where your relationip begins says a lot about where it's going to go.
Love! Romance! Intimate relationships! Marriage! Divorce! Remarriage! Clowns! This episode has it all. The wonderfully warm Dr. Benjamin Karney of the UCLA Marriage lab has been studying romance and intimate relationships for 20 years and sits down to chat about being single and the mechanisms behind finding a partner, what behaviors foster intimacy, why some couples stay together vs. splitting up, some bananas proposals, wedding budgets, how parenting affects marriage, historical problems with matrimony and his own experiences with marriage and divorce. These behaviors are also so applicable to friendships, work partnerships and as it turns out...professional clowns.
Dr. Ben Karney at the UCLA Marriage Lab
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