How to Support People Without Feeding the Over Functioning of Their Co-Opportunities

The iniagram shows us how to support people without feeding the over functioning of their coping mechanisms. When we give compliments or we love some one, especially when they're showing up in those patterns, we're reenforcing the idea that that is exactly who they have to be. So for example, if i say to a type nine, oh, you're so easy to get along with, well, then that reinforces the idea that their opinions here aren't wanted or welcome. But if instead i can say, hey, type nine friend, i would really love to know your opinion about this. I've liked no judgment. I just want to hear what what you think, because i