327: Summer Series: Emotional Mastery with Dr. Joan Rosenberg
The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair
The Most Important Thing You Can Do to End Harsh Self Critique
For me, harsh self criticism is a thought hyjak of unpleasant feelings. So the most important thing you can do is to notice your hrself ism. And then ask yourself, what is it that came right before i did this? It's actually through taking action and speaking that you grow confidence.
We all experience emotions, but most of us don’t really understand what emotions are. These feelings can drastically alter our day, our life and our experience in the world, yet they’re intangible and often messy and confusing. It’s no wonder many of us try to avoid them altogether.
Well, get ready to have your mind blown and to see emotions in a whole new light in this brilliant episode with Dr. Joan Rosenberg. Dr. Rosenberg began her study of emotions when she was trying to figure out what made some people confident in life, and her finding was surprising: confidence didn’t just come from a sense of self-esteem but from our ability to handle uncomfortable emotions.
As she dug deeper into the human emotional experience, she uncovered a world of surprises around our understanding of emotions and how we can better process, experience and master our emotions.
We talked about why emotions are so uncomfortable for us (it’s not why you think), what a compliment really is and why it matters so much, what drives fear, anxiety and grief, our fears around emotions and how we get stuck in emotion. Dr. Joan also shares her formula for feeling, experiencing and expressing the eight core emotions in an authentic way that helps them truly move through us.
Listen to discover:
- The unexpected key to building confidence
- "The Rosenberg Reset" formula to build confidence
- The 3 things that cause our uncomfortable feelings to linger (it's not the feelings themselves!)
- Steps to build more confidence
- The true power of a compliment (this one left me speechless)
- What's actually underneath fear and anxiety
- Why we need to both feel AND express our emotions
As much as I talk about emotions, I was still left speechless more than once in this episode as Dr. Rosenberg got to the heart of what is really beneath certain emotions and my perspective was shifted in so many ways. This is a truly empowering show that will help you live a more balanced and confident life.
“We need to learn as humans how to feel our emotions.” - Michelle Chalfant
“The ability or the capacity to handle unpleasant feelings really is the foundation of confidence.” - Dr Joan Rosenberg
“I think of confidence as the deep sense that you can handle the emotional outcome of whatever you face or whatever you pursue.” - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"We're one interconnected whole...The brain is always feeding information to the body, and the body is always feeding information to the brain." Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"It comes down to handling short-lived bodily sensation waves." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"100% of the time that sensation morphs and vanishes if they stay with it." - Michelle Chalfant
"We metabolize feeling by feeling it and expressing it." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"If you want to stop your ruminating thoughts, you have to feel the emotion that's underneath the rumination." - Michelle Chalfant
"I think of the ability to speak up as the superglue to confidence." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"A compliment is a reflection of you back to you." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"What looks like arrogance is insecurity." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
"Disguised grief is the gap between what we wanted, what we needed, what we felt we deserved and what we really got." - Dr. Joan Rosenberg
LINKS & RESOURCES
Dr. Joan Rosenberg
“90 Seconds to a Life You Love” (Dr. Joan Rosenberg book)
https://www.amazon.com/Seconds-Life-You-Love-Authenticity/dp/1478999764
Dr. Joan Rosenberg TED Talk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKy19WzkPxE
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