"If you feel like someone is being condescending to you, you need to pause for a second and then do a little analysis," he says. "This is where it's hard because you really have to step out of your shoes." If this person were trying to be compassionate, what would they do differently? Would I be able to tell the difference? You can also kind of use like, you know, the friend example, like if you take yourself out of the equation,.