The medium through which you do this is really, really important. There's conversation, there's text message,. And there's emal, this archaic thing, this relic of a past along past age, or wriding letter. A lot of people may be very, very avoidant of conversation. The whole point that you're lying in the first place is beause you're trying to avoid conflict. An if you have a conversation you may be locking yourself into conflict. So we want to steer away from conversation since all these things are like smoke signals and what not.