In this solo podcast episode, #JodiCarlton delves into the intricacies of dating for both #autistic individuals and #neurotypicals dating someone on the spectrum. Drawing from my experiences with long-term couples, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags early on in relationships. Key topics include the dangers of not being your authentic self, patterns of harmful behavior, boundary issues, and intimacy misalignments. She also addresses the concept of capacity and developmental stunting in autistic partners and how these can manifest in relationships.

Additionally, she explores common justifications for staying in unhealthy relationships and the critical mistake of falling for someone's potential rather than their current reality. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the dating world, particularly in neurodiverse contexts, and provides valuable insights for setting up future generations for success in their relationships.

00:00 Introduction to Dating and Relationships
00:58 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships
01:40 You've Become a Different Person
02:25 Understanding Codependency
04:03 Behavioral Patterns and Apologies
05:54 Communicating Boundaries Effectively
07:45 Intimacy and Alignment in Relationships
10:52 Emotional Availability and Capacity
12:49 Adolescent Development and Responsibility
18:27 Justifying Staying in a Relationship
28:00 Concluding Thoughts and Advice
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.

🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.

📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

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