Are You Escalating Intentionally?

In distressed relationships, the most common paten we see is one person demanding and getting angry and criticising. And if the other person doesn't respond alouder, they say, i'll get you to respond to me. But unfortunately not. We desperately need the other person to respond to us. Emotional isolation is tramatizing for human beings. You're not wired for it. It's a danger cue for your nervous system. There's a special pathway in our emotional brain reserved for attachment,. When we feel abandoned by the person we depend on, there's a special way of dealing with that.