Can I Ever Forgive Someone Again?

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The crucial variable in whether or not you can forgive somebody is if you can see how this person has changed. Do they regret lying to you, or do they have some defensive story about why it was necessary? Those are the kinds of details that matter, right? I think to forgive someone, we need to feel that there's a plausible path that stretches from who they used to be when they intentionally injured us and what they purport to be now.

Questions:

What is your position on vaccine mandates, school closures, etc.?

Do you think painful memories remain painful because there is something left unresolved?

How can you forgive a consequential lie?

Can you clarify your plans to support effective altruism with NFTs?

What are your views on transgender women in sports?

How can we combat disinformation and misinformation coming from friends and family?

You’ve said that we shouldn’t demonize billionaires, but is it really possible to become that wealthy without perpetuating the evils of capitalism?

How do you guard yourself against cognitive bias?

Can mindfulness provide relief in the case of extreme suffering (e.g. after the death of a child)?

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