Parenting and 'you vs you'

What if the real competitive edge isn’t talent or strategy… but the inner world you build when no one’s watching?

Legendary All Blacks mental skills coach Gilbert Enoka joins Andrew May in an exclusive live keynote and Q&A to explore what it truly means to become unstoppable in life, leadership, and high-pressure moments.

Gilbert unpacks the thinking behind his new book, why the most important work is on the things no one can take from you, and how Māori concepts, rituals, and emotional control shape resilience. 

In this episode Andrew and Gilbert talk about:

1:15 Gilbert’s new book and becoming unstoppable by working on things people can’t take away from you.

3:45 Building different Māori concepts into the book to reinforce the learning at the end of each chapter.

6:30 Building rituals in the locker room of the All Blacks and creating a human library of past legends current players can learn from.

12:00 The different teams Gilbert has worked with and could he ever be tempted to work with the Wallabies?

14:05 Pressure is a lifestyle and some of Gilbert’s experiences with pressure.

16:50 Having the right structure and routines are keys to high performance and learning kindness.

23:30 What Mike Cron has to say about Gilbert.

25:30 Transforming the All Blacks culture after a big loss.

27:30 How Gilbert teaches people to control their emotions during a game.

33:15 Gilbert’s parenting advice, it’s you vs you and it’s a one size fits one solution.

40:40 Finding meaning in the workplace and in a team.

44:00 finding issues in individuals vs in teams.

You can find Gilbert at his LinkedIn: https://nz.linkedin.com/in/gilbert-enoka-onzm-aa614917
Buy a copy of Gilbert's new book: https://www.penguin.com.au/books/become-unstoppable-9781776951192

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