Relationships - What Behaviors Trigger Abandonment?

What behaviors trigger my abandonment anxiety in relationships? And what are some possible alternate explanations for those behaviors. How did this person respond when you wanted to grow or change in some way? If they were jealous, resentful, controlling or even ambivent,. In what ways might your desire to change or grow have represented a threat to them? Do you proactively get attention in an appropriate way from whatever your love language is? Are you safe and trustworthy? Do you respect yourself? What do you need to feel safe?"