I think all our coworkers assume I just go home and do laundry and watch TV. Because that is the assumptions you make about married people. Having a child does feel like such a ginormous time sock. So then you sort of get wistful about those things. And we project in some ways positively on single coworkers as you must just be having so much fun because I am not.
If you aren’t married and don’t have kids, people at work might assume a lot of things: that you can stay late at the office, that you can’t possibly understand their stories about parenthood, that you just haven’t found the right partner (ugh). But those assumptions are often false. Single childless women have busy lives, close relationships with children like nieces or nephews — and many don’t want coupledom or motherhood.
We talk to two women who’ve been researching and writing about being a single childless professional. The writer Shani Silver shares her experience with the career pros and cons, and then Tracy Dumas, a professor at Ohio State University, gives research-backed advice for responding to bias and unrealistic expectations.
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