You don't want to blame them, right? Cause that's going to activate their perry and counter attack you. So the reason i'm asking is because i want you this office to succeed. And these messages need to be getting through. It's not about ego, it's not about blame. It's like this just needs to happen, ok? The key thing to remember is that if you aggressive, sometimes you are falling into their debating strategy. They play their trap card. You're the bad guy, right? Then they have an advantage for round two. There's a snowballing effect. So approach with a cam mind. Let go of your emotions. Talk to your therapist