In this Lonesome Conversation, Joel and I explore his reframe that "aloneness can become all oneness" — that you can learn to connect with the earth and sun so deeply you're never truly alone, even in solitude. He shares the story of a teacher who spent 18 years alone doing shamanic practice, and makes the case that intentional solitude, far from something to fear, can be an actual lifeline. A grounding look at why most of us lack the tools to be alone well, and how they can be learned.

About Joel

Joel Schafer is a personal empowerment mentor and shamanic dreaming arts teacher. Through online courses, one-on-one mentoring, and in-person workshops, Joel trains people in a highly effective way to reclaim vital energy and attention utilizing the Toltec knowledge base. These are powerful, non-linear redistribution techniques that guide and support students in discovering clear purpose, increasing awareness, getting grounded, reclaiming focus, & accessing strong intent. Joel is also an excellent listener and mirror, offering practical but magical solutions to life's challenges.

Lonesome Conversations Limited Series

Lonesome Conversations is a special series from The Life Stylist, built around my new book, A Horse Named Lonesome (out November 17, 2026). Loneliness is something almost everyone goes through, and almost nobody talks about honestly. So I sat down with psychologists, philosophers, trauma therapists, teachers, and friends to find the truth about loneliness, and how we heal from it. Each episode is its own conversation, but together they walk the same ground the book maps out. (Pre-order your copy at ahorsenamedlonesome.com) You'll find new episodes alongside our regular show over the coming months.

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