The four horsemen of the apocalypse is an indication of what unsuccessful relationships do, even if people are not trying to do them. Contempt means you're looking down your nose at your partner with a little bit of disgust and then criticizing them from that point of view. Defensiveness looks like either being a righteous victim or so there's a little whine to it or it's a counter attack. Stone walling literally means what it sounds like. You become a stone wall and you make absolutely no responses to your partner when your partner is conversing with you. The book starts off with this core idea, which is that can love really be a prescription.

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