The First Conversation I Had With a Detractor

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The first conversation i had with josh, it came about because i had scrolled through a bunch of hate messages I got and ad made fun of their typos at a comedy show. So there was a kind of a twist in that performance that i uploaded where i scrolled through comments. And then i found his employer because i was listed on his profile so he listed best by as his employer. Just when everyone thought that i was going to ask him to be fired, i left a positive customer review as if i was his customer.

The game that social media sets us up to play is a game that rewards outrage. It's a game that we win by being better than other players at dunking on each other, straw-manning each other, and assuming the worst in each other. The game itself must be transformed.

And, we can also decide to step out of the game, and do something different.

On this week’s episode of Your Undivided Attention, we welcome Dylan Marron — who has been called by Jason Sudeikis "a modern Mr. Rogers for the digital age." Dylan is the creator and host of the podcast Conversations With People Who Hate Me.

On the show, he calls up the people behind negative comments on the internet, and asks them a simple question: why did you write that? He just published a book by the same name, where he elaborates 12 lessons learned from talking with internet strangers. Together with Dylan, we explore how transforming the game and transforming ourselves can go hand-in-hand.

RECOMMENDED MEDIA

Conversations With People Who Hate Me (podcast)

Dylan Marron’s podcast where he calls up the people behind negative comments on the internet, and talks to them. In this episode, we heard a clip of Episode 2: Hurt People Hurt People.

Conversations With People Who Hate Me (book)

Dylan’s book where he elaborates 12 lessons learned from talking with internet strangers.

Won’t You Be My Neighbor

Feature documentary chronicling the work and legacy of Fred Rogers.

RECOMMENDED YUA EPISODES

A Conversation with Facebook Whistleblower Frances Haugen: https://www.humanetech.com/podcast/42-a-conversation-with-facebook-whistleblower-frances-haugen

The Cure for Hate. Guest: Tony McAleer: https://www.humanetech.com/podcast/11-the-cure-for-hate

The Fake News of Your Own Mind with Jack Kornfield and Trudy Goodman:

https://www.humanetech.com/podcast/19-the-fake-news-of-your-own-mind

Your Undivided Attention is produced by the Center for Humane Technology. Follow us on Twitter: @HumaneTech_