Ryan Michler is the founder of Order of Man – an online movement that teaches men how to protect, provide, and preside using timeless principles of masculinity applied to the realities of modern life. He is the leader of the Iron Council – a men's group with over 1,000 members worldwide.

In this episode, James asks Ryan about his journey from a financial planner to a leader of men, dating after divorce as a single father of four, and practical tips on how men can be role models to young boys today.

Expect to learn:

How to turn the goal of “being a better man/dad” into measurable actions
The important difference between discipline vs. systems that lock healthy habits in
What it's like to build a movement of men from scratch

00:00 – Finally Connecting: From the UK Countryside to Utah
02:00 – Father–Son Trips and the Value of Shared Experiences
03:45 – Choosing America and the Spirit of Individualism
07:15 – How Order of Man Accidentally Took Off
08:30 – Turning a Side Project into a Movement
09:40 – Building the Iron Council and Its Early Days
11:00 – Making “Becoming a Better Man” Tangible
13:00 – Asking Kids How You’re Doing as a Father
22:30 – Co-Parenting After Divorce and Showing Up Fully
27:00 – Raising Daughters, Emotional Regulation, and Triggers
28:30 – What It’s Really Like to Have Four Kids
33:30 – Why Kids Need Other Kids (Not Just Parents)
34:30 – How to Be a Male Role Model for Boys Who Aren’t Yours
41:40 – Where to Raise a Family: Rural Roots, City Trips
45:00 – Why Big Cities Can Drain the Soul
47:00 – Sophistication vs. Culture (and Why Culture Wins)
58:00 – Dating Again in Your 40s (and Why It’s Easier)
1:01:30 – Casual Dating, Boundaries, and Honesty
1:13:30 – The Habits Men Struggle With Most (and Why They Escape)
1:14:50 – Phones, Social Media, and Setting Boundaries for Kids
1:16:30 – Parenting with Systems: Phones Off at 10 p.m.
1:20:00 – What Ryan’s Son Thinks of Order of Man
1:22:00 – Wrapping Up: Building With Depth, Raising the Next Generation

Judges 4:1-24 (Episode 201)

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