There is this societal expectation, especially for strait women, that you are going to have children. And no one talks about these cost like Emily claudia did. She remembers thinking it was the most unfeminist thing she had ever done. It really allenged your sense of yourself and my sense of my future. So emily claudia described five distinct groups. I am squarely in group five. Amy g you are in group four. Emily, you're in the next group. i wonder how you're notions of family, career and fulfilment are going to be different from ours.