i think each of what you guys want before you're ready for a relationship is very like legitimate and real, right? This isn't pathology on your part. It's just you wanting be in a different place in your life. I don't know that you guys are ready for a real relationship yet but i do think it's important to rememgbe that good relationships are not defined by the people who end up with them. And once we can overcome those things that i'm trying to hide, that i don't need to hide any more, right? Then i could just be me, inauthentic, authentic, ye, free, you know? Supposed to beb was called