I Can Only Have an Orgasm With a Partner if I Fantasize

I think that there can be some, a lot of shame with fantasy and you know, this person said a different person's name while we were having sex. I would first interrogate that shame a little bit of like, why not? So yeah, I don't know. Fictionalizing is a brilliant thing to do during sex because particularly in long-term relationships, the context isn't always going to be sexy. But I don't say that to suggest that fantasy means you're not connected.