On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Zak are talking about estrangement. We got a really thoughtful question from a listener whose four-year-old is starting to ask questions about why one of his grandparents isn’t in the picture. And with kids that age, the questions just keep coming… even on topics like this, that are really hard to explain.

Elizabeth recommended the following resources:

A Family Is A Family Is A Family by Sara O’Leary
The Not So Friendly Friend: How to Set Boundaries for Healthy Friendships by Christina Furnival
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson
The Estranged Heart

And after that discussion, we’ll of course circle up for a round of triumphs and fails — and we’ll also share some amazing thoughts you shared about going to DC.

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