How to Be Less Coercive to Yourself and Others

If I had to give them three letters I would say IFS. What does it even mean to be coercive to yourself? It's when you've got like an internal conflict. So, quite often there are conflicts between your explicit view of what to do and this is the rational thing to do. And then your feelings like yeah but I really don't want to do it. But all of these are just kind of conflicts and so the coercion is when one of those parts has priority for some reason.